“Why waste time looking for the perfect lover when you can instead be creating the perfect love?”
I’m not sure the perfect lover exists. Certainly at the beginning of a relationship the pheromones and hormones are raging. The lovers think the ecstasy will never end. Desire and lust, those two emotions that can dictate and ruin a life, run rampant and uncontrolled in those early days. “This will last forever” they foolishly think, while unbeknownst to them, the house they are building has its foundation on the shifting sands of sexual attraction, and nothing else.
If all they have is sex, the relationship is doomed to failure.
Is there a perfect love? The odds of finding or creating the perfect love are much better than the odds of finding the perfect – and lasting – lover. The perfect love is based on so much more than physical desire. The perfect love ties the lovers to each other emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Perfect love supports, nurtures, encourages. Perfect love is creative, not restrictive. Perfect love is unselfish but at the same time self-loving. Perfect love can also create the perfect lover, but only in the correct order.
Why do so many of us fail to understand the difference between the perfect lover and the perfect love? I can’t answer that question. What I do know, however, is that perfect love must be created and birthed first, and if this is done carefully, slowly and intentionally, the perfect lover will simply be a part of a whole, wonderful, fulfilling and soul-enhancing miracle of perfect love.