Every action we take has consequences. And many times non action has consequences as well. Consequences can be bad, or good.
Since launching my author Face Book page a few days ago I have received emails, phone calls and texts from my brother Dan, my mother, and the wife of one of my nephews, all castigating me for writing and publishing Biologically Bankrupt.
None of these three people have read Biologically Bankrupt. My brother Dan, who read the reviews on my Face Book page and an excerpt on Amazon, informed me that I had no dignity, no integrity, was a selfish and pompous ass and still needed to seek redemption. My mother, who only knew about the book because of whatever Dan told her, called me on the phone, told me she was disappointed in me and hung up on me. The nephew’s wife told me she didn’t care what I wrote about Dan, but she didn’t like the fact that I had written about her husband. She also asked me did I not expect to harm my relationship with family by writing the book? In other words, did I not expect familial consequences once my family’s story and history was told?
The answer is, of course, I did expect consequences, but I could not know what they might be until they occurred. I don’t think I thought much about harming familial relationships with Dan or my mother because, to be frank, there hasn’t been a relationship with Dan for over 30 years, and my relationship with my mother is only one of obligation. My hope in writing Biologically Bankrupt was to bring a message of healing to those people raised in dysfunctional and emotionally damaged families by demonstrating that no matter what sort of life we are born into, we do have the inner strength to transcend all circumstances and the power to take responsibility for our lives – that we don’t have to remain a victim.
The messages and comments I have received from readers of Biologically Bankrupt have affirmed over and over again that the message in the book is powerful, thought provoking and comforting. A good consequence. And, as far as I am concerned, a consequence that far exceeds the negative familial consequences.